These last few weeks I’ve been in a battle in my mind. This battle is the battle of isolation. A backstory about me is I used to isolate myself when things were going wrong, I used to not talk to anyone and over the course of these last few years I’ve been able to overcome it.
One of my good friends is really social, she is constantly wanting to be surrounded by people and is always ready to introduce herself to others. She’s constantly talking to people through text or calls and other social networks. Looking at this I began to compare my life to hers. I told her that as far as hanging out with people, I don’t hang out with a lot. Some weeks she is the only person I have plans to hang out with. I looked at my friends and as far as close friends I know three off the top of my head. These three are the people who know me the best and I’ve invested a lot of time into them as well. And this is when the battle began. I learned a little about life relationships vs. functional relationships. These three friends of mine are the most definite example of life relationships in my life along with a handful of others who are in my inner circle. But I began to panic because I am so used to having functional relationships because one of my problems in life is that I have a desire to always be functioning. I love being busy. I enjoy schedules that are back to back and almost nonstop. Being out of school, I’ve lost that busyness and those functional activities that force me to be surrounded by people.
Where am I going with this? I’ve come to find out, through an online test, that I am an introvert. And I don’t say this as an excuse to distance myself from people. But I say this so you can have a better understanding of who I am and why I do things. Although I am an introvert I don’t distance myself from community. Community is an important part of life because in isolation you are vulnerable to anything. In community you have people to help strengthen you. In my life I’ve noticed that it’s hard for me to be in constant communication with more than five people. This isn’t because I don’t care about people but my mind can really only focus on a few people at a time. But this doesn’t limit me to only having five people in my life. I do also talk to people outside of them. And there are those moments where I have a short conversation with some people or someone will want to talk to me and I do talk to them. But as far as me initiating conversation it’s only a few at a time.
I say all this to emphasize community and show that no matter your personality, introvert or extrovert, we all need community. People help you to grow as well as people need you to grow. We’ve all got strengths and weaknesses but together we are strong.
Please let me know if bi-weekly posts are better than daily or vice versa. Feedback is also welcome. And if any of my readers have a topic they’d like to hear my thoughts on or if you want to discuss anything comment here or contact me via email firstname.lastname@example.org or tweet me @jonathandumlao. Also I’m gonna work on a catch phrase to end all my posts with because to a few of my friends I am “The King of One Liners.”